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You’ll probably here me harp on a lot about fatphobia on here, and the phrase might feel relatively new or vague to some. The fact is, we do live in a wildly fatphobic society. However, these posts are not intended to criticise but to go some w
I’m sure this is a variation of a quote from the genius that is @brenebrown. Shame, especially when unaddressed, can impact our thoughts about ourselves, others, our place in the world, it can change our emotional responses, the way we interact
And so the final instalment of ‘what’s it like to be in therapy with Lucy?’ Getting into therapy can be intimidating and if that’s the boat you find yourself in, hopefully hearing from others who were once in that same boat.
Hello! I took a little social media break whilst I was finishing off a research project but I have returned! In case you’re wondering about reaching out for therapy, I have a couple of Wednesday/Thursday slots available, as well as a fortnightl
Did you know that anger often turns out to be a secondary emotion? That means that what we see being presented to us as anger - expressed through shouting, yelling, physical violence, ‘the silent treatment’ and well...a bunch of others, y
You’ll often hear therapists talk about grounding. It’s pretty much exactly what it sounds like. Bringing you back to reality, back down to earth, back down to the ground. But sometimes that’s easier said than done. I want to take a
Now listen here, I know that when you’re really going through it and feel like the world is entirely hopeless, being told to take some deep breaths can feel like a slap in the face. And to try and claim that deep breathing is going to solve all
The 18th and final instalment of the schema series. Dependency and incompetence. Really overcoming this one is going to be about tuning in to how your thoughts and emotions impact your behaviours and vice versa; and figuring out what small behavioura
The vulnerability to harm schema can feel like it’s really got a grip on you, but working with somebody who can help you tackle the management of your nervous system, the emotional happenings and then subsequently your behaviours around the sch
Hello fellow British people 😂 #counselling #psychotherapy #therapyisnormal #onlinecounselling #onlinetherapists #notts #nottingham #attachment #newyearnewme #plus_isamust #psblogger #radicalfatacceptance #anxietyprobs #antiracism #xenophobia #inters
Remember folks: you can’t pour from an empty cup! People often scoff at self care but actually, it’s kind of the opposite of being selfish. At the end of the day you simply cannot give people what you do not have. A top up on your emotion
The three main responses to schemas like this are avoidance, overcompensation or surrender. Whilst those responses are totally normal, the key to working on overcoming this schema is confidence building. Recognising the issue and pushing yourself a l
This one is much more difficult to deal with and actually, many people with this schema who need help don’t recognise it for themselves, and will often only seek out support when friends/loved ones have requested it (over and over again.) #coun
Again with the lack of self identity assurance! It’s hard to know who you are when you’ve been forced down a path (think Logan Huntsberger for my Gilmore Girls fans). Taking time out to figure out who you are, what you believe in, what yo
Enmeshment - lots of folks struggle with not really feeling like they know who they are outside of their relationships, be it familial relationships, romantic, friendships or otherwise. Keep your eyes peeled for some exercises in the coming weeks on
This one can be tough because unfortunately, it makes you a bit difficult to be around - people don’t tend to love being around people who only have negative things to say. One mechanism for working on overcoming this schema is gratitude journa
Are you someone who frequently gets super excited about a new hobby or project, gives it your all for a short period of time and then drop it before you’ve really seen the fruits of your labour? Have a read of this... #counselling #psychotherap
There are lots of things that can help with management of this schema (and all of the others too). For this one in particular, identifying your emotions and really analysing them can be helpful - lots of people like journaling for a safe space to pro